Couples Intensive · Zürich
The weekend, hour by hour
Ten focused hours across two days, held privately in my Zürich office. Both days run from about 9:00 to 16:00, with short breaks and an hour for lunch woven in. Here is how the time is shaped — a rhythm designed to move from understanding the pattern to practicing something new together.
Seeing the pattern
Individual sessions
We begin apart with an hour-long individual session for each of you. This lets me understand how you each experience the relationship, learn something of your history and background, and build a trusting connection with you both.
15-minute break
Envisioning the relationship you want
Together we picture the relationship you each hope for and find where those visions meet and where they diverge. You’ll learn the foundational Imago tool, mirroring: reflecting back what your partner says before you respond and checking that you’ve truly understood.
Lunch · 12:15–13:15
Uncovering your childhood imago
Guided worksheets help each of you connect early experiences with caregivers to your present frustrations with one another. You’ll share what surfaces and practice mirroring it back to each other.
15-minute break
Appreciation dialogue (optional hypnosis)
We set aside your current grievances to reconnect with what brought you together in the first place — what you value, what you love, and why you chose each other. If you’d like, we can close with about thirty minutes of hypnosis that weaves together your shared vision and this appreciation.
Repair & reconnection
Deepening the past–present connection
We check in on what stayed with you overnight, then go further into how childhood shapes the present. I’ll introduce the minimizing and maximizing strategies each of us tends to use and the ideas of symbiosis, differentiation, and attachment (with handouts)—all while we keep practicing mirroring and staying grounded as feelings rise.
15-minute break
The heart of the matter
We turn to the core issue you most want to resolve, working to mirror, validate, and empathize while staying connected and contained — without criticism, defensiveness, or blame. We close with a brief guided meditation or deeper hypnosis to ground and begin envisioning a way forward.
Lunch · 12:15–13:15
From insight to daily change
We pick the dialogue back up and begin turning it into small, concrete things you can each do and say day to day — and make gentle, workable commitments to one another to keep them.
15-minute break
Bringing it together
We reflect on what you’ve each learned and are taking with you, and close with a guided meditation or deeper hypnosis — a felt sense of what moving forward, differently, can be like.
Four weeks later. A follow-up session, included in your package, to consolidate what’s working, revisit any places you’ve gotten stuck, and find strategies to keep the momentum going.
The tool you take with you
The single skill you’ll carry out of the weekend is the ability to run an Imago Dialogue on your own—the practice most couples come to rely on to feel genuinely heard. It can feel a little clunky at first; that’s completely normal, and it’s worth it. You can watch what one looks like in action here.
Questions about the weekend?
The best place to start is a free, no-obligation 15-minute call—a chance to ask anything and sense whether this is right for you both.